When you get in a relationship there are many things that change from when you were single and living all alone. You make many compromises regarding the things you like and want to do. While this is common, it doesn’t have to be this way. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean putting your own needs behind, but making your partner understand them and respect them. You will not be asking for extreme things, but having some alone time to concentrate on you and the life you had before you met your partner. Just because your lives have now merged, it doesn’t mean that you have to lose your old lives and your true shelves.
1. Fighting for bed space
If every night is a nightmare, don’t just stay there, but make a conversation to your partner about it. You can even wake them up in the middle of the night.
2. Take time and learn something new
Either it’s learning a new language or reading a good book, having some ‘you’ time is very important in a relationship and you should fight about earning that time.
3. Don’t leave your career behind
Yes, things may be getting more serious, but that doesn’t mean that you should stop trying in your job. This is where you should rush even more and make a name for yourself.
4. Take your girls for an amazing trip
Many couples have the issue of not making trips with their friends and that’s a HUGE mistake. Don’t let your friendship rot, but instead invest some time in making it blossom even more.
5. Just eat whatever fills your heart
Just stop lying about what and how much you eat in front of your partner. They are not going to love you less if you eat a lot. And if they do, then that’s their problem.
6. Watch whatever trashy show you want
Watching your favorite trashy shows and films when no one’s watching because you are afraid of criticism is dishonest and if someone’s loves you, they will also love you after knowing your preferences.
7. You don’t need a serious excuse to go out with friends
It doesn’t need to be someone’s birthday to go out with your friends. You can go out with them just cause. Your partner will have to understand that friends time is as important as partner time.
8. Sleeping until noon on weekends
Weekends may be ideal for bonding with your partner, but they also are an opportunity for you to sleep a little longer. Don’t hesitate to ask for that extra time.
It is very easy for someone to lose their own personality inside a relationship and this is something that you should be working hard on not happening. Remember that the relationship will never be really good if you keep pretending to be someone else.